tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post2583673827837232619..comments2023-09-26T08:30:42.867-05:00Comments on Locating My Life: Changing My FocusLilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06044336707596369037noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post-73513456052191257702010-03-07T14:29:43.603-06:002010-03-07T14:29:43.603-06:00hi Lily, I know the difficulties that relate to bo...hi Lily, I know the difficulties that relate to both SI abuse. But from your writing, and the advise you give to others it appears that your IQ is high and your well able to comparmentalise your brain so that your able to speak about things, while still keeping your emotions in check.. Well at least in public or in counselling. The other times when the emotions take over, or you left feeling dead inside the SI sometimes helps to bring you back although it results in its own sense of guilt thereafter. Working with A and getting the best results mean you have to suffer the pain, the emotional trauma over again, but look back on it from a more informed viewpoint and insight. Dont be afraid of breaking down in a counselling session, let it out its the most safe place to do it. On the other matter you refer to, the need for secrecy because of 'religion'.. Guess for some similar reasons i have gotten to run a mile from religion, its rules, the power involved and the people that are prepared to abuse that power and use religion to hide behind.<br />Dont know what else to say just 'safe hugs' and dont let fear of emotional excess keep you from working towards your freedom. As for the SI I know how addictive it can become, but also know it can be overcome. Good luckTom Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09198413327285551401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post-78604237954505206642010-03-06T08:27:22.324-06:002010-03-06T08:27:22.324-06:00I can so relate...being raped really messed my hea...I can so relate...being raped really messed my head up around issues with intimacy and sex...I still hate to be touched if I am not expecting it...Somehow it helps when I have some controls around it...Stay strong okNikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post-14836510396802283852010-03-05T22:59:40.443-06:002010-03-05T22:59:40.443-06:00Thinking about you--those are hard topics to talk ...Thinking about you--those are hard topics to talk about....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post-16116743583565927392010-03-05T18:55:34.914-06:002010-03-05T18:55:34.914-06:00((LILY))I hear you struggling...it took me over 3 ...((LILY))I hear you struggling...it took me over 3 years before I could mention the word sex in front of the therapist.<br />You are in my thoughts....<br />~ GraceGracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13961205553965750049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post-33909694547268740942010-03-04T22:00:01.256-06:002010-03-04T22:00:01.256-06:00Dear Lily, in reading your posts, you have touched...Dear Lily, in reading your posts, you have touched my heart and I understand your struggles. <br /><br />If it would help you in any way, go ahead and print out the post I did on being sexually abused and the effects it had on me, and maybe bring it to your next session and show A. It may be easier for you to discuss the topic this way in relating to someone else. Just a thought. Pray about it. See what direction God is leads you.<br /><br />(((((Lily)))))Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4529408451442066706.post-25683883589117352512010-03-04T19:17:16.881-06:002010-03-04T19:17:16.881-06:00Oh this is a tough one. You are dealing with it in...Oh this is a tough one. You are dealing with it in a fashion by talking about it on your blog but we are not qualified to give you the proper advice on how to deal with this huge issue.....I know it is hard to trust someone after all you have been through but if you can muddle through enough to trust anyone I pray that it will be your therapist. Good luck and I will be praying for you.......:-) HugsBerniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03024565921761129108noreply@blogger.com