Chapter 3

On The Thre.shold of H.ope
by Dia.ne Lang.berg

"How to Ca.re for You.rself As You Read"

Reading this book is terrifying for most survivors, as it means you have acknowledged you abuse and are doing something to remedy it's position in your life. This book will definitely bring to the forefront some thoughts and feelings you forgot you had. In order to make sure you are doing so in the most healthy environment, the author provides tips in helping you get through this book.

1: Don't read at night. Most abuse happens in the cover of darkness and it can easily be a trigger.

2: Read in small bits. I can say personally I read a few chapters of this book in March, then had to put it away for a few months. It was just too much at times.

3: Stop when you have had enough. For some it will happen faster than you'd like.

4: Write down your thoughts as you read. Rarely will you remember your first response to reading a passage that strikes a chord with you unless you write it down. It can provide great insight to the thoughts/feelings you are having at your current stage in healing.

5: Make sure you have a way to deal with what you are reading in a safe relationship. Whether with a therapist, pastor or mentor, you need to have someone who can support you in what you are opening your mind up to.

6: Plan constructive ways to take care of yourself. Garden, exercise, scrapbook, listen to music. Find a way for you to give comfort to yourself when you get too overwhelmed.

7: Realize that reading through this book will hurt. You will want to stop. You will want to tell yourself you are being silly and should just get over it. You will want to run from the feelings you will face. You will be completely normal in that.

7 comments:

Sophia said...
November 29, 2009 at 11:31 PM

I love this post and the tips you have provided for those who are survivors. Being one myself, I have learned to avoid certain things at night altogether, so as they do not trigger bad dreams for the night.

And yes, as a survivor, it often is difficult facing things at times, but I am getting better and better.

sarah said...
November 30, 2009 at 6:59 AM

I've never heard of this book but your outlines on how to read it are great. Take gentle care. Sarah

Joanne said...
December 1, 2009 at 7:41 AM

How helpful that the author guides you through the read. It really takes books and reading to a very inspiring level, to be able to use them in such hopeful ways.

Wrapped up in Life said...
December 1, 2009 at 9:38 AM
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HeartfeltHeartLook said...
December 1, 2009 at 12:57 PM
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Just Be Real said...
December 2, 2009 at 6:39 AM

Dear one great post. Great description. Thank you for sharing. Blessings and safe hugs....

Secretia said...
December 3, 2009 at 3:15 AM

You have written a needed article on caring for ourselves, it's good.

Secretia