On The Threshold of Hope

I really am at a loss for what to reflect on. I have never felt so disconnected from myself. I hate to compare it to denial, because with denial at least you are on some level feeling some sort of emotion just choosing to squash it... it is so much worse than that. I am not intentionally squashing anything. I am just here. There's nothing behind what you see; no pain, no fear, no anger. Numb.

I've started re-reading On the Threshold of Hope again, hoping to help me go back and reflect on things that I pushed aside because they were too hard to deal with initially. A lot of it I feel I have already moved past, but there are some things that still ring true, and others where my "hell-no-o-meter" is still going off loud and clear.

Chapter 1 (approriately named) "Getting Started"

When I first began this book, I was about 4 months in to counseling, having just verbalized my story for the first time since I first disclosed it to my mom, my counselor and then to the police and prosecutors. After those intial 12 weeks, I never spoke of it again for 12 years. My counselor recommended this book, as she had used it in the past with other clients dealing with sexual abuse, and she liked it because of how it was geared towards spiritual healing as well as healing of the body and mind.

The first chapter begins with a breakdown of the "voices" you will be hearing throughout the book. No, you aren't going crazy... you really will hear voices. ;) The first being the voice of the author; inserting her own experiences with clients and important identifications of the symptoms/thoughts/beliefs etc of sexual abuse victims. The second is the voice of survivors. Those she has worked with and gathered information on all the way up to Elie Wie.sel's abuse suffered at Ausch.witz. The third voice will be your own; chiming in with "Wow, I could have written that passage word for word" or "I can't believe someone else thinks that too." Other times the voice will remain silent. The last voice is that of the Redeemer. For those like me who have struggled with allowing that voice to break through the hurt and pain that you have carried around, this voice may not be as loud as the others. It may not break through for quite some time.

The author writes "... (this book is) meant to assure you that there is a way out of the darkness, that others have gone before you and now want to lend their voices to encourage you. It is my prayer that this book will enable you to see yourself "on the threshold of hope." "


Sophia said...
November 9, 2009 at 10:28 PM

I have not heard of this book, nor this author. I am going to google it. I am thinking of you and wishing you the best. I can relate to the (unfortuanate) sexual abuse, as well as other abuse. Hugs.

Being Me said...
November 10, 2009 at 12:17 AM
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Just Be Real said...
November 10, 2009 at 3:52 AM
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Lisa Marie said...
November 10, 2009 at 7:34 AM

It is by Diane Mandt Langberg.

Harriet said...
November 10, 2009 at 9:16 AM

I hope you find comfort in the book as you read it again. It sounds very promising.

Erin Merryn said...
November 11, 2009 at 8:36 AM

Sounds like a good book. How you liking it? I will look into picking me up a copy.

sarah said...
November 12, 2009 at 5:29 PM

I never heard of the author or book but it sounds like it's a great tool. I agree with the author, "there is a way out of the darkness....." It's just such a long haul, a rollar coaster ride, sometimes seems like it will never happen, other times like freedom....than back and then forward. You're doing all the right things..In your corner. Sarah

Secretia said...
November 16, 2009 at 6:17 PM

I'm commenting a week after you posted this; I just came to the blog today. The book you talk about can be a big help to abused people. Thanks for reviewing ot for them.