Thankful

Sorry for the lack of posting, but this last week has been absolutely jam packed!

My week was amazing. I look back on certain things and can see why God put it there for me. Getting past this setback is going to take work, but this week was a huge step in the right direction.

I have been fortunate enough to find a really great church group full of people my age and current stage in life (single). A lot of them I went to college with and knew as acquaintances, others I know from other walks of life. Since I have been going there, I have felt less lost. Like I have a home. And not only that, there are people there that are truly fantastic people. Sunday mornings have consisted of class with them. After class last week, I headed to a graduation party for a friend's daughter. This friend of mine is someone who I met through CR, and it was being thrown at the daughter's house of another friend I met through CR. Over the last 3 months, we have become extremely close. I have felt like a part of their family. And sitting at that graduation party surrounded by all their "real" family and a few very close friends, I realized just why God put them in my life.

I can be loved.

These people didn't know me from Adam a year ago. Through CR, we shared our worst struggles and demons, we laughed and cried and connected with each other. Even through all of that, them knowing my past, my darker thoughts and actions, they have shown me the type of acceptance and love that my family doesn't do.

Both of these women are older (a little above and below the age of my mom), so their kids are close to my age. I hadn't ever met the daughter who hosted the graduation party, but was nervous about meeting her. I didn't want her to think that my presence was because I was trying to steal the love and attention from her parents. But again I was surprised. This girl, who is only a few years older than me, is such an amazing person. Their whole family is. I look at all of them and wonder how people can turn out to be so wonderful.

So that evening we all made plans for Thursday. Her husband is the coach at the high school that my school feeds into, so he basically coaches a lot of my former students. Thursday night they were playing a 3-game series against the #1 team in the nation to try and advance to the state championship. Everyone got together again, went to dinner then to the ballpark to watch the game. Again, sitting there eating with everyone, I just sat back and thought to myself, God has given me these people to show me that I can be loved. That I am not damaged.

Oh, and by the way... our team won the first game 14-6.

So Saturday rolls around and it's time for the 2nd game. I was invited to drive with the daughter to the game (it was much further away this time). Since she's married to the coach, we got in free and got GREAT seats. Of course it's Te.xas and it's the summer. We were in the sun the whole time and the high yesterday was 102. I was so hot and sweaty, but it was worth it... because they killed them! 12-3! #1 team? Psssh. The boys are going to state!

We went out for a celebratory dinner, me, the parents, two of the kids, the daughter in law and one of the grandkids (The coach and the oldest grandkid went to dinner with the team). They put us in a private room (we joked because we smelled so bad) and again, I was hit with how lucky I felt to be sitting there, surrounded by people who have shown that they are truly accepting, regardless of my past, present or where I might be in the future. They care about me. Now.

I have had to work hard not to take this wonderful thing and let my mind turn it into something negative. My fear always is that I am going to run people away if they ever find out the "real" me, so that voice in my head has been working overtime. "You're too selfish, once they find out you are nothing like they are, they'll leave you." "You're not a good Christian, you question too much and don't always have faith." "You're eventually going to overstay your welcome and they will push you away." That horrible voice that has permeated my thoughts for a long time. That voice that showed up after I was abused.

A and I are working on that voice. My homework this week was to catch myself in those thoughts and counteract them. It feels fake and far from genuine, but it's going to take a lot more than a week to change. I'm just so thankful God has given me these people to practice with.

8 comments:

Just Be Real said...
June 6, 2010 at 6:24 PM

Lily, I am so glad you resurfaced!

I love your post. It is encouraging and so very encouraging to me!

Glad you had some accomplishments in getting past your setback.

How exciting that you found that church you feel comfortable in and already know people in it! Makes it so much easier.

Seems like as we are clothed in these human bodies, we will always be a target for satan and his lies.

Glad you are working on those lying voices. Yes, it will take time. I still am working on mine.

Blessings to you dear one!

Mary said...
June 6, 2010 at 7:20 PM

Ah Lily, this warms my heart for you.

Please remember you are loved!! By the one who knows you from the top of your head to the bottom of your toes. Not an inch does he not know. You are alredy pleasing to him. Nothing you can do or not do can change his love for you! Nothing!!!

Let them love you!! Let God love you through them.

One more thing, when you are in Christ you are a new creature - that is the "real" you!!! The otehr stuff is part of the old nature, and we all have that junk to carry around. It looks different on each one of us, but we all have it.

The real you is glorious!!!

Hugs!!!!

Grace said...
June 6, 2010 at 8:37 PM

Yay Lily! This sounds so positive and energetic. I'm happy to read! I was worried becuz you had not posted in awhile...i'm glad it is because you have been basking in lightness, not darkness.
Keep working on that voice...I will too
(((LILY)))
Grace

Sara said...
June 7, 2010 at 12:03 AM

you sound so uplifted and just carefree! i'm so glad you are doing fun things just because they are fun!

Bernie said...
June 7, 2010 at 12:27 AM

I am sure your new found family find you ver easy to love, I am so happy you are enjoying their company. A must be helping very much sweetie, keep up the good work as you sound wonderful...Hugs

Dr. Deb said...
June 7, 2010 at 5:40 AM

You are doing so much and it sounds like you see and feel the positive momentum. It's so wonderful to read this post.

Paula said...
June 7, 2010 at 9:23 AM

This is simply so wonderful to read! Cant you see me grin across the pond? So happy that you resurfaced - even more though HOW you resurfaced. Many of us find themselves selfish, some are, some arent. Whatever we are, we do learn selfcare. Your week is such an example for it. Each and every minute! Love to you

sarah said...
June 8, 2010 at 4:24 PM

"I can be loved. " What a great statement! and yes yes yes to it. So glad to hear all these neat things. One thing for sure....you totally deserve all this great stuff and more....