So, as I previously posted last week, I met with my boss to discuss my absences and was second guessing that choice because of her reaction. For purposes of self-preservation I made the choice to move as many appointments as possible so that I wouldn't miss work. In all honesty I scheduled a couple during work to allow me a break every 4 weeks or so. I told her I changed almost all of my appointments (with the exception of two that really couldn't be changed) and she was grateful that I did that.

Fast forward to today. She stopped me in the office and asked if I was going to a seminar after work (optional) that we have once every 10 weeks or so. I told her that I already talked to my department head about it, that Tuesday's won't ever work because I have other engagements that can't be changed. So she proceeds to ask me what I do during that time. I'm sorry.. it's my personal time and it's off-contract. I could be pole-dancing and you can have no say in it. Anyway, I told her that I have medical appointments (vague enough?) from 5:30-6:30 and rehearsal from 7-9. In a nutshell she basically told me that what was happening after work was important and that I needed to reschedule those appointments when something like this comes up. She then proceeded to tell me that I shouldn't ever respond that "I can't EVER do that" but that I should be open to possibly changing my schedule in order to be able to participate in something that will help me.

I was so pissed. That woman really has no clue.


Harriet said...
February 3, 2009 at 8:35 PM

Wow, you're right. That is none of her business. I'd be pissed too.

Aqua said...
February 7, 2009 at 11:32 AM

I would be angry too. Part of why I became so sick was because of my inability to set clear boundaries with my work. They had me doing things outside my workday too and it was "known" we weren't to complain or expect to be paid. What you do on your own time is nobody's business but your own.

Try telling her you have kidney dialysis, or radiation treatments at that time...people seem to get when you NEED to be away for physical health reasons...just kidding, but I get so annoyed with those kinds of people.
Take care,

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